This thing about friends & guys have been on my mind for awhile. I have been trying to understand and analyse them, treating them as research topics just like those that I worked on in my uni days and I seriously still can't fully comprehend these 2 subject matters ! I guess it's because the comprehension of anything related to the human heart is a complicated matter in the first place !
I will use the metaphor of a what I see marriage is to describe this whole thing about friends. And bearing in mind it's true friends that we are talking about !!! The honeymoon period will be when both parties are still emotionally attached and passionate about each other, those 'I love you' crap and stuff. And when the feelings die down for both parties, that's when commitment comes in and continue to hold the couple together. This commitment that they have made in their vows is so powerful that it allows both parties to witness and accept the flaws of their partners FOR LIFE. Of course, here I am assuming the ideal case of low divorce rates and the presence of careful selection of partners for the entire population.
Similarly in a friendship, people will find it easy to befriend someone whom they deem 'friendly' 'nice' 'decent looking' 'doesn't annoy the hell out of them' 'caring' 'sweet' 'humourous' 'entertaining' and whatever positive adjectives that adds on to the list. This is so-called the 'honeymoon period'. And after that comes the shit when you get to know the other party better, and true colours start to show. *HIAK HIAK* And such true friendship will stand when both parties agree to make that 'commitment' and accept each other's flaws and hideous side. *I'm not using the word 'ugly' cos it's not strong enough! haha* So even if your friend pisses u off for example and vice versa, the ability of accepting such crap will reveal whether it is a true friendship or not, just like the case of a test of a strong marriage.
And this thing about guys (age range 18-30), is it true that most of them (80%) are pretty desperate and probably immature that they jump upon any girl that comes along, satisfying their physical or emotional needs that they've so yearned for? And this I'm not just referring to the physical aspect, but also the emotional and psychological parts where they easily fall for girls who can give them the kind of attention that they needed at the right point of time, boost their ego by making them feel so wanted and high above everyone etc. And that's when the terms wives-to-be, gf-but-not-wife material and flings come up, but I guess most guys would enjoy very much the last option huh?
Flirting around here and there, getting all that attention etc and when there is no longer anymore feelings (and I'm still not sure if there indeed had been true feelings involved in the first place), the guy will cut off the current girl and crap about certain commitments that he has or probably use NS (typical of Singaporean guys) as 1 of their excuses before he starts preying on a new target/targets who is/are able to create that 'fresh-feeling' again.
Seriously, sometimes, I feel that guys have far underestimated the capabilities of the women population. They THINK they are playing the game very well, but they've neglected the fact that women are actually also great intellectual beings that God has created! Wouldn't it be a wonderful thing if guys can just show some respect and REFLECT on their selfish acts of causing hurt to the other gender population and learn to be more considerate? And it might be a smart choice to adopt this before women start to rise up and let these guys have a taste of their own medicine.
Hmm, or issit happening already?
