I guess... people do change...

It's amazing how people can maintain relationships despite the fact that people do change. With new 'stimulus' coming into our everyday life, how can one still stay committed and convicted? This, I'm referring to both BGRs and our relationship with God.

People can like and not like a person anymore as quickly as a snap. Similarly, people can also 'fall out' with God when things do not go well for them, which also means, backslide in this case. How can we then learn to stay committed regardless of who the other party is?

One example I would like to share is Eugene and CK's relationship. They've been together for about 4 years. And now that Eugene has gone to UK for 4 years, it must be tough on both of them in this long-d relationship. One thing CK shared was that before Eugene left for UK, he constantly told her about this 'triangle' thing which I do not know what it is, but I assume it must be something related to God. I think what Eugene wanted to tell her was that, no matter how tough times are, God will always be there and we can safely rely on Him as their relationship not only consists of the 2 of them, but God as well.

However, I'm sure Eugene also makes a constant effort to keep in contact with CK as often as he can, because in a relationship, COMMUNICATION IS VERY IMPORTANT. I used to tell my ex-es that I need at least 1 sms/day, because I want to know how the other party is doing and whether he's still alive and kicking. And I realised, that is also the best way, to see if the other party is still interested in this relationship or not.

Guys who tend to keep everything to themselves, I guess, are definitely not the type for me. When communication breaks down, no matter what the guy THINKS in that teeny-weeny brain of his, it doesn't mean anything because no one can read his mind except for himself. Communicating what he's feeling is probably the pillar of the whole relationship, and I guess when the guys stops 'communicating', it sort of marks the end of the relationship already. For me, I think the best way is kuai4 dao1 zhan3 luan4 ma3, which means to end it quick and swift. Any sense of unfaithfulness or lack of interest will send me the signal that it's time to end this relationship. I guess, this is why my relationships often do not work out cause I need too much attention. (Is 1sms/day really too much?) And I've also concluded that it's cause of such a weird personality of mine that I tend to backslide more often when I can't feel God around me.

I guess, ultimately I have to learn to reconcile with that and probably have more faith in my future partner and God. At least one comforting thing for me is that God answers all prayers, just that it's a matter of maturity in spiritual level to hear His answers. But what about future partners? Can I have the same reassurance that they too will 'answer' me?